Like every parent I connect with my little one through play and laughter, closeness and conversation. The connection you make through touch is the most powerful and there are different ways to make it even more so. When the time is right, I create a bit more awareness than usual in the play and take it to the heart level, where the spirit dwells.
I try to do my morning yoga routine before she wakes up. Usually this is fine but sometimes she wakes up and walks up to the lounge where I’ve set up my mat and all the useful paraphernalia. She has always had a weird understanding of not disturbing me in my practice so I usually can carry out my routine until my meditation. Then she just comes and lies on my lap and even falls asleep whilst I work on my mind.
I also find her sometimes walking around our home with my prayer beads chanting yam yam yam yam. She sometimes hears me doing this as I work on my heart or anahata chakra during my morning routine. Yam is the bija mantra for this particular chakra. She sometimes again sits on my lap and I place my hand on her heart and go on chanting.
When I put her to bed I give her a massage, which not only nourishes her skin (with eczema) but calms and grounds her quickly so she can get a good sleep. After having massaged the legs, back , arms and tummy I concentrate on her ears and finally on the heart. In a few seconds she usually falls asleep. It is magical.
The palm of your hand is an energy point, or marma, which is associated with your heart. When you walk hand in hand you are actually walking heart to heart. When you massage another human being with your hands you are actually touching them with your heart. The power of touch by hand whether it is by holding or massaging goes into much deeper levels of your being or your shared space of existence. It is amazing to give your child a heart powered sensory experience creating a calming, grounding and replenishing moment of rest. An evening massage routine is especially recommended for children with problems of overcharged nervous systems and the ones being over exposed to media. Or even, like in our case today, if you’ve had a busy day playing in the park running around randomly eating all sorts of picnic foods and being absolutely exhausted when getting home.
My daughter resting there on my lap while meditating or chanting is one of the most wonderful things in my experience of motherhood. Your hands are a tool to connect on a spiritual level, in your core being. Through them you can communicate peace and love, creating a magical space of energy, devotion and compassion. Your heart is in your hand, always.
P.s. A heart massage is also one of the best ways of healing from having lost a loved one or after breaking up a relationship. You can do this to yourself as an easy remedy to bring some comfort and grounding in a period of heartache.
For heart massage: use warm oil and massage first clockwise to stimulate the area and then anti-clockwise to calm down. At the end just hold the hand on the heart for a few minutes and then place a warm towel or a hot water bottle on top.